The speaker talked about the many ways we attempt to validate our anger, as though the person we are angry at deserves it. In some sick way, we actually enjoy yelling and punishing other people. Something she said really struck me. “The more we rage, the more we become enraged.” When I was growing up, I practiced not responding in anger. I would do my best to keep my mouth shut and not say anything. It served me well then but I have really lost touch with that practical advice, so it’s worth taking another look. There is so much to learn from the Word about anger and wisdom. Have you ever looked at verses about anger in the Bible? Oh man. Listen to these:
“The anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God” (James 1:20) — What are we hoping for when we get angry? Do we want to see righteousness born in the one we’re angry with? Don’t count on it! Are we trying to justify ourselves and get something that we want? This is more likely the case, but either way, we aren’t getting what we really want!
“A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger” (Proverbs 15:1) — It doesn’t matter who we are upset with, choosing to speak in a calm and respectful tone, with gentle words, is always going to be more profitable in the long run. How many of you regret words you’ve spoken in a moment of anger? Yeah? Me too. I think when we speak harsh words, we not only stir up the listener’s anger, but we stir up our own too.
“Those who guard their mouths and their tongues turn away calamity” (Proverbs 21:23). — Being careful about what we choose to speak can make all the difference.
“A person who is passing by and meddles in a quarrel that’s not his is like one who grabs a dog by the ears” (Proverbs 26:17). — Oh man, have I ever done this! Especially in family quarrels! I’ll see siblings fighting and I just pick a side and jump in! I’m basically inviting myself to be angry instead of steering clear!
“A hot-tempered man stirs up strife, but he who is slow to anger quiets contention” (Proverbs 15:18). –I don’t know about you, but I’d rather be slow to anger than known as a hot-tempered woman! Oh God I pray You will change our hearts and cause us to be slow to anger. I pray we will not react without thinking to the hot-tempered man or woman.
It’s amazing how much wisdom the Bible has inside. May the Lord Jesus bless you as you seek His Word. I pray we will all become more like Him, may we be quick to hear, slow to speak and slow to anger (from James 1:19).